I can remember many moons ago working with a talented Jungian astrologer in Boulder. For those locals who remember, this was Nan de Grove, that paper thin ethereal beauty who wrote new and full moon updates for the Colorado Daily, a local free paper. The hipsters all waited with baited breath for the next edition to get their star realignment and ritual content for the next two weeks. Yep, we took it moon phase by moon phase in those days…
Imagine my shock that first time after droning on about my trauma, when I was not offered sympathy for the tough family dynamics of my chart. Instead, Nan suggested that the challenges I had were most likely mutually designed. Yes, my soul and my mom’s soul probably agreed to incite each other to… well, among other things – to illuminate some dreary old patterns we wished to leave behind.
Ack! WTF indeed! It took a few years to really integrate the soul healing perspective, let me tell you. So much easier at that early stage of the healing game to point fingers, and list reasons why others are soooo wrong. And mean… and and… yes, yes, all of that. And speaking of patterns, it gets to be quite the repeating cycle to share the story of these injustices, and explain how they are the reason, and those people are to blame, for why you can’t do X, or why you run into issues when you really want to XXX.
Such a funny game this earth walk, especially that first stage of storytelling. You are so “in the world and OF it” at that point, and it all seems so real. You work hard to make sense of things. For a time, you really NEED that story, to explain yourself and how you were formed. It helps you create sense and meaning in the world. It’s an initial jumping off point, a beginning myth.
Then after a few knocks like I got from Nan, you start to say, Wha? And you can see that it’s possible to loosen up from your story a bit, to take a little break from “reality” as it is and was known. You can begin to step into the view from the casa de soul, where our enemies and adversities are recognized as our most powerful teachers. Those punks.
Jeesh, you mean that dude might be soul family?
Yes, and well we’re all family or one or protons or moon juice on some level, sure. But it’s special soul blood that dance your lessons with you. And every time you see it, each time you can wink and smirk at the game of it and the beauty and synchronicities that abound – you strengthen those soul perspective muscles. And you bring us all one step closer to the next evolutionary step we’re poised to take.
I mean, don’t hold your breath. Predictions are a moving target, and I’ve lost a lot of oxygen over the years… It’s a process, as they say. I do think it’s upon us, but maybe seven-years-in-the-making upon us. And I’m happy to be surprised with an early arrival and all.
At any rate, here are some musings about the stages of acceptance in this “everything is soul grist for the mill” bake off. I want to hear your ideas on this.
Soul Bake Off (It’s all grist for the mill) Stages of Acceptance (Soul Punk Reunion Concert Line Up)
1) WTF? Who me, or my soul, designed this bitchin’ road-rash-inducing trail? You’ve got to be kidding…
2) OK… Maybe this ain’t what it seems… There does appear to be a repeating pattern here…
3) Damn – it’s true – my enemies teach me a helluva lot more than the warm and fuzzy people. Shoot!
4) Who’d a thunk it! Forgiveness is much more amazing than I realized. OK, who’s next? Hey soul punk! C’mere!
5) Bring it on! So much healing to do … so little time! In fact, I’m gon’na lean into this one…
So that’s one 5 stages naming, one soul perspective approach. Does it make sense for your evolution? Did I miss a stage? There’s so much uniqueness to how healing and acceptance happens, and how one opens more to the flow of abundance and peace and love from the universe. About how one must humble oneself to open to grace. Please pipe up on the blog. And we’ll keep discussing this, kay? And all the other cool stuff.
Yours in that long, corner-of-the-eye view,
Denise Barnes
Photo: Linda Millemann
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