Growth has terrible timing.

Just when you’ve built a life that finally works, something inside begins asking for more. Not more status or achievement, but more meaning, more aliveness, and more honest expression. More sanity and balance. More joy.

Most people think they’re trying to make a career decision. Or finally say no to the BS and impossible demands.

Yes. And there’s more…                                                                                                                    

I believe this means living through an identity transition. A whole-being transformation that is bigger than you, bigger than your and yours.

The truth? This is a complicated and mythic task, this invitation to grow at this time.

That’s why the usual approaches rarely solve it.

My take on this transition

Why is this shift so hard, besides the fact that humans hate change?

Truth is, there are risks in changing. This could be financial risk, or a shift in what you’re known for; your reputation. With this type of transformation, there’s no guarantees, at least in terms of staying comfortable. It disrupts the status quo for a time.

The unknown will be involved. Humans hate uncertainty. Being in control is one of the biggest addictions and illusions going. Yet, with this shift, that tingle of more aliveness can enter.

Finally, you’ll be challenged to cleanse any dark corners of your mind and heart. The inner BS and self-sabotage won’t fly in the new landscape. There is inner and outer work to do, and that healing is not just about you. It’s for your lineage, too, if you are called.

No, this is no walk in the park, no afternoon couch lounging.

On the other hand, declining this expansion doesn’t solve it either. The call doesn’t go quiet; it doesn’t turn off. That quiet alarm keeps pulsing.

There is good news though. Any honest steps you take, increase aliveness. Doesn’t matter if you “get there”. This is thrilling, that creative edge of building and designing something new. Taking action evolves into more sanity, passion, and more fun.

Plus, there is a sense of truth and fulfillment from stepping up to that call. To me, that’s your soul call. You might call it your why, your deeper purpose, your WTF… but I think you know what I mean. You unveil the layers to what’s most meaningful in this lifetime’s walkabout.

With this disruption of the current status quo, old survival strategies rise, and masquerade as practical thinking. Barriers will appear – fear, old trauma-based beliefs, perfectionism, people pleasing. That’s the old ceiling. You can’t fully transform while weighed down with that baggage.

My work helps people recognize those patterns and loosen their grip, so they can move forward with more freedom and integrity. You’ll need an approach that integrates the best modalities. We co-create the listening sanctuary that allows your truth to emerge, to guide your clarity and next steps.

This isn’t just a job change or a business uplevel. It’s a deep shift and expansion. And you get to decide, yes, I’m ready for this. Timing is important. Slow down to listen, and you’ll know when it’s time.

WHAT YOU NEED AND IN WHAT ORDER

Yes, this is serious work, but don’t fret – it has a side that begin to feel like an adventure. It’s real.

After walking with hundreds of people through these transitions, here’s what I think you need, and in what order.

The journey has three parts.

Clarity – Hearing the deeper call beneath the noise. Clues count, and movement grows clarity.

Foundations – Addressing the fears, practical realities, and inner obstacles that naturally arise. You’ll leave here with a rough map and direction.

The Path – Moving forward with three supports:

• Soulful Structure – regular action steps to research and implement ideas and see what arises.
• Sanity Tools – Evidence based tools to stay on track, lessen stress and deescalate the inner BS.
• Healing Work – Co-creative hypnotherapy and somatic work to heal and reprogram old blocks.

Whether you work with me or not, I hope you can find these types of structures to support your growth and expansion, and that my framework increases your understanding of the landscape. And why it’s been hard at times to make progress.

I don’t believe radiant work comes from forcing yourself to become someone else, from shifting sideways.

I believe it comes from becoming more fully yourself, and rising to this next summit. Activating the clarity, structure, healing, and courage to live what you already suspect is true. To listen to the call and decide for yourself, yes, it’s time to step up and explore this.

If this philosophy resonates with you, I’d love to help you explore your own next chapter.

HOW WE WORK TOGETHER

I support people with individual or group coaching, trauma informed therapy, intensives and workshops.

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This kind of work and contribution that uses all of you – it’s sorely needed. This next step is not only for you, but for the benefit of all.

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