What’s a Matta For You/r Abundance?

Who is it, and what movie (or many), when the Italian guy (Joe Pesci?) is yelling, “What’s a matta for you”, at his minion? Poor minion is either kind of slow, or just not playing the mafia game properly.

Sometimes I feel just like that poor minion, when I read books or attend “abundance” workshops. I’ve heard about the law of attraction (LOA) for many years. It seems so easy. What’s a matta for me, that I’m not rich, or the perfect picture of Buddha with jewels, right now?

The books and teachers will tell me right quick what’s wrong. It’s my fear, or other negative emotions. Nope, I can’t keep a straight face when I’m embodying my vision of what I want to create. Or maybe, I don’t really belieeeevvvve that I deserrrrrrvvvvve my desire.

Okay, like any statement, there are often nuggets of truth in the LOA. You do need all your senses to visualize effectively, and you want to really embody your vision. You do want to hold a positive intention, and uh yes, be clear enough to have one, as you sally forth.

When you have many desires and gifts? Watch out! It may take a little more time for you to realize your multi-faceted success. Are you sure you’re not multi-tasking due to your fear of failure? Look at your neighbor – he always knew he wanted to be a forest ranger.

And look at all those “negative” emotions! C’mon now. I see you are at a negative six on the Abraham-Hicks emotion scale. What can you do to raise your vibration friend, so you’re at least above mid-line?

You know, I’m exaggerating here, but I have to say, I’ve had it with the instant wealth promises and the lame blaming I hear in some of these “abundance” teachings. Kind of like when folks say attitude is everything in healing, and if you aren’t curing your illness, it’s your fault.

Metaphysical Malpractice, a mentor of mine calls it.

Here, Try this NEW! Law on for Size

Okay, what if I told you there is a new universal law, a very powerful law that can help you do amazing things. It’s called the Law of Love. There are certain steps and practices, and it works the same for everyone – you just have to get it right.

Oh, it’s just a coincidence that the initials are LOL. Ignore that. But yes, it does take a lot of luck, and if you aren’t feeling particularly lucky right now, just stay awake, because luck changes a lot. If you are properly awake, you will not miss luck’s arrival. If you do miss it, you need to wake up just a little a bit more.

Here is how you wake up more. Get in front of a mirror. Open your eyes wide. Repeat this affirmation, “I am willing to stay as awake as humanly possible”. (See that human adjective gives you a lil’ bit of slack.) Repeat this, very dramatically, as loud as you can, embodying it in every cell, 10 times.

If you are moved to laughter, that is the advanced Law of Laughing Love – and you can now start teaching this practice. Watch your world fill with love and abundance – your wish is ….

Okay, I’m being a little silly here. Some laws, like the law of gravity do apply to everyone. But when it comes to spiritual laws, or laws that govern human nature, you often need to fashion your own way through it. Especially if you are one of those independently-minded artist/healer types.

You know, it’s like working with illness. Two with the same condition may find very different ways of healing themselves. We don’t want to say, “Here, have some chemotherapy; it’s the law”.

Everyone’s path is unique, like snowflakes. These paths will shift, cover new ground, meander, and have up and downhill times. There may be some elements our journey’s share, and some that are specific to your own soul’s research.

Be Kind – Abundance, Enlightenment - Take a Little Time

Don’t buy it when the abundance peeps make you feel like Homer Simpson going, “Doh!” Yes, elements of the LOA work, and it can be a great spiritual process to clarify and focus your work.

To your financial vibrance in 2010.

WALKING THE TALKING    

Though shy with the horn tooting, my business wanted you to know some “pay off” and progress made with the fertile finances-type work I babble on at you about. (Yes these businesses have a life and voice of their own. Never mind the outfits!)

 The progress is good to note, because sometimes that moneymonk path gets discouraging and takes so much patience. You might forget the reasons for this practical and core healing work. And you bet that you can get tired of the tracking, the discipline, the delayed gratification.

 Well, I’m so grateful to 2009, they year of the great shift for me. After years of work, I turned the corner in my work to befriend money. I find that – it is a neutral force you can harness for your own and the greater good. Really – I can say this now with conviction.

 Money feels benign – gentle, compassionate and wise to me these days – feminine even. I’ve watched it stand back and let me fashion my unique healing path toward walking the spiritual path – with cash.

 UH-OH, IT’S A MONEY GEEK

 Can you believe I actually consider the money planning/tracking time a fun activity? I actually reward myself with it lately. Does that make me some kind of money geek? Yikes.

 Yet, I did have to walk through that valley of death, to quote the phrase. Okay, death may be a bit strong. It was certainly dark and stressful for a long time with the money work.

 Now that I’ve scaled the ravine, I want to testify that there is higher ground. Plus, this spiritual path has many side benefits too. Say for example, having the discipline to cook a healthy meal when in the past I’d go out for a less healthy (and more costly) option.

 But beyond lovely side effects of this spiritual path, I have some huge news. As of last month – I am debt free. I took out my first student loan when I was 22 – and went on for my master’s degree – so this has taken decades to pay down. Big exhale.

 The silver lining to my student loan debt, if there is such a thing, is that I never felt I could take on any credit card debt. So I was spared that high interest ride.

 Yes, there were times I thought – wow – imagine what I could be doing with this money I’m using to pay off my debt. Damn! Yet, it was good to make good on the investment, and thank those who showed trust in me.

 Freedom from debt is a great feeling and well worth the work. I’m still getting used to it, and it will take some practice to shift gears. Now, outta my way – I’ve got a dusty credit card that wants some attention… Just kidding J

 Here are some thoughts about what it’s taken for me to get debt free. Let me know what is helping, or has helped, you with this.

 PAYING YOUR PROPERS TO MONEY ENERGY

 When Aretha wanted R*E*S*P*E*C*T, she asked to be paid her “propers” when her lover got home (chorus: just a just a just a just a just a just a just a just a – little respect, just a little bit, just a little bit). A little bit at a time is fine. Here are some propers I had to pay to become debt free. 

• Regular weekly money meetings and an easily trackable spending plan
• Regular check book balancing – weekly over the internet
• A new appreciation for delayed gratification – not many needs are urgent
• Celebrating progress of even small steps (I’ve more to learn here)
• Creating multiple income sources - incl. day jobs that use gifts and pay well
• Humility about both my strengths and the ways I’m still a cosmic youth
• Seeking and accepting help and support – including professional support
• Establishing money and decluttering practices at regular intervals
• Simple and clear ways to manage time
• Work play balance (I’ve more to learn here)

The final paradox is maybe one of the more challenging to master. It’s accepting the polarity that you are here, but want to get there. This moment and your current status is everything, is whole and perfect, though it may feel like crap when you’re climbing out of the ravine.

 Hold that paradoxical view of blessing the grit, and loving your presence and golden heart in the midst of the marathon. Feel abundance before the wallet shows the cash to back it up – visualize the goal already created. 

 There’s always so much to be grateful for, even in the bottom of that ravine.

 So trust yourself. No learning is lost. There are steps I’ve taken that money experts would say were so wrong, yet for me they worked out and ended up being perfectly timed.

 You have your own path to fashion. We all are being called to reinvent our personal and collective economy. We are in good company, we lightworkers trading in begging bowls.

 So a collective farewell to 2009. May the threshold of the yet to be known 2010 be filled with joy and appreciation for all that is. And may you live long and prosper on this soul savvy journey.